How to Stay Safe on Seeking Arrangement

Be careful out there as you pay for your college education!

In my quest to fund my schooling, I found a sugar daddy. But I had to weed through a lot of bullshit to get to that point. The process is taxing and complicated, with setting up a profile and then navigating conversations with potential sugars. I encountered people who didn’t have my best interests in mind. Here’s how I stayed safe throughout the process, using Seeking Arrangement:

Don’t give your name out right away

Personally, the best situation keeps personal lives out of the arrangement. Obviously, this is different for everyone, but have a nickname or go by your screen name if you’re going to be a sugar baby. It allows you a little privacy during your search.

Don’t immediately give out your payment information

Especially your bank account information, if that’s how payment is going to work. Meet, discuss, and agree before giving them your PayPal or Venmo or whatever you’re using.

Discuss, talk, and meet

Not every person on the sight is going to be a fit for you. Similar to any type of relationship, you need to figure out if you two click. I know it’s tempting to just go for the person offering the most, but you feel much better if you actually have a mutual enjoyment of each other.

Meet first at a neutral location

Don’t immediately go to their house and don’t immediately invite them over. Go to a coffee shop or a restaurant or something to meet for the first time. You’ll be safer. This rule also goes for generally meeting people from online.

Be sure to communicate about boundaries

If they don’t respect them, run.

Listen to your gut

If something is off, don’t do it. Your safety is the priority.