Comments on: Student Alleges NYU Is Forcing Her To Live With Her Roommate’s Four Year Old Son http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/ The Blog of New York University Thu, 11 Dec 2014 01:15:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0 By: Alina M. http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-149444 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 15:15:22 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-149444 NYU doesn’t pay attention to student complaints until people go public with them. Last Spring ’12 semester I was sexually harassed by someone in the Student Health Center, and my official complaint was dismissed, and my emails to administrators were ignored – the man is still working at the SHC in fact. Maybe if I went public with his name NYU would care?

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By: Jeff D http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-142743 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 20:28:42 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-142743 To think that this became an issue in the first place is astounding. A college dorm room is in no way a safe or appropriate place for a child to spend long periods of time, let alone spend the night. Whoever didn’t see a red flag when assigning this mother to a two person dorm room should probably get reprimanded if not fired. Stupidity.

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By: Sara C. http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-141829 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 19:58:57 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-141829 @Gwen B. @Michelle W. No, I don’t mean that something should happen to the child before she complains! I just meant that her roommate hasn’t even had the kid there yet and she’s already imagining that her roommate is going to have her son there all day, every day, fail to supervise him, and negatively affect her school performance. She hasn’t given it a chance. I thought the school’s response to work it out amongst themselves was fair. Just because her roommate is a nontraditional student and a young parent doesn’t mean she is rude and lacking common sense.

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By: Nora K http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-139865 Thu, 24 Jan 2013 02:13:57 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-139865 It seems as though Snellgrove is only going public with her situation because NYU (as they love to do) gave her no choice and placed burden on her to rectify the situation. And considering that it was only after she went public that NYU finally relented to what is a RIDICULOUS situation in the first place I don’t think she was out of line at all

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By: Lauren York http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-139831 Wed, 23 Jan 2013 22:36:29 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-139831 A dorm is no place for a child. It’s this exact reason that university’s have created family housing and single units. I would not want to change my language or study habits because a child invaded my dorm if I were still in college. The girl who filed the complaint was right (even if she did make it public!), she’s within her rights to live in an environment that she’s able to study in. Why should she change her study or living habits because someone wants to have a child stay over too many nights? the mother should have asked for family housing or a single from the start.

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By: jackie protsman http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138335 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 19:12:50 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138335 they should have dorms for colliage student with childern .. so thier children can be with them all the time ,,, and daycare in the collage’s.. they are trying to make a better life for thier children ,, ,, i don”t see why not help them out ,, if it was you’r child .. i know you would want the same … .. so why not … theese are hard time”s we all live in .. so why make it hard for the one”s trying to do good for their children and for themselve”s,, give them a break ,, life is hard don”t make it harder …

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By: Julie Walker http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138248 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 09:48:30 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138248 Hey you guys! Kerissa is DYING to live with mom and the four year old! Let’s make this happen! She can teach the kid how to be SMUG and SELF-RIGHTEOUS and the kid can teach her how to eat paste.

Everybody wins!

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By: Christine Elizabeth http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138163 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 02:59:58 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138163 Even if the 4 year-old is best behaved little kid in the world, you still have to be very conscious of what you are doing around a small child. You have to modify your language, not leave potentially dangerous things around (and that category is very wide, since kids do and get into things we can’t imagine at times), and find a way to study or nap during the day with a kid stomping around and possibly being loud, throwing tantrums, etc. Many parents would ask that you not drink any kind of alcohol in front of their kid, or even watch or listen to certain things. These are things you have to sacrifice when you become a parent – I’ve lived with kids before in a “helping to raise them” setting. It is tiring just being AROUND kids all day let alone having an active role in their lives. It certainly is not conducive to a college student whether they are a foul-mouthed partier or a conscientious overachiever. Nobody should have to sacrifice these creature comforts or in some cases, necessities (naps in college saved my ass from over-exhaustion, and I wasn’t even a partier) for someone else’s kid UNLESS everyone agrees to it and is totally cool with it. Even then, a contract should be drawn up and boundaries would have to be set and followed to a “T”.

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By: Michele W http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138132 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 23:12:03 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138132 @ Sara C – Are you serious? She should have waited for an actual problem to arise (the child ingesting alcohol, perhaps) before raising this as an issue?

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By: Kerissa Ward http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138130 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 23:10:25 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138130 Thank you, Chantelle, for proving my point that Ms. Snellgroves action of presenting this issue in such a public forum has held up her now former roommate to ridicule and judgement.

We do not know the details of the situation from the roommate’s point of view, nor do we know other details like the actual times the child is the room. It has been assumed by many here and on other media sites that the single-parent student manipulates housing policy and that the child spends innumerable time in the room. Plus Ms. Snellgroves has leveled accusation of unprofessionalism at her residence hall directors because, in her opinion, will not intervene to her liking.

At this point, I find Ms. Snellgroves behavior more inappropriate than her roommate’s.

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By: Gwen B http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138124 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 22:41:29 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138124 Sara C, are you suggesting that something should happened before Shasten Snellgroves complain? Does Shasten Snellgroves have to wait til the child slip and fall in the bathtub or swallow some pills before she raised any concern for the child’s welfare and for her own peace of mind?

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By: Kai LI http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138109 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 20:57:14 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138109 It’s better to complain about “potential” problems than to complain about irreversible problems that have already happened.

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By: Mike Anders http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138107 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 20:35:44 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138107 Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. — Oscar Wilde

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By: Bart Salom http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138099 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 19:54:02 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138099 This is a reasonable letter. A university dorm is not the best place for a 4-year old boy. That’s why some universities have family housing, where married couples or students with children can stay. Can you imagine trying to do your work with a toddler running around?

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By: Chantelle M. http://nyulocal.com/on-campus/2013/01/17/student-alleges-nyu-is-forcing-her-to-live-with-her-roommates-four-year-old-son/comment-page-3/#comment-138086 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 18:47:03 +0000 http://nyulocal.com/?p=84962#comment-138086 Kerissa, please screen cap your comments for posterity, so that when you grow up you can look back over them and see how misplaced your self righteous anger is. Hopefully, there will be policy change/clarification because of this scenario arising. Only an entitled, self absorbed, brat (or an idiot) would basically bring their 4 year old with them to NYU.

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